People change. As we get older our ideas and viewpoints change, our personalities change, our passions change, our hair, eyes, face, fingers, and toes change. And it’s not just you, the reader, that is changing. It’s everyone you know and everyone around you.
You’re probably thinking that I’m just preaching what you already know but you have to admit, we take people for granted way too often. We like to think that the friends we have right now will stay the same forever and that is just not true. More often than not, you and your friends will grow apart and change. Or you’ll be thrust into a situation with them and realize that you’ve changed and maybe they haven’t.
I am not friends with most of the people I was friends with from elementary to high school. I wish I was closer with some of them than I am right now, but we drifted apart and don’t talk often or at all. It doesn’t mean I don’t like them though, in fact, I miss some of them. But I know that we are all in different places in life and we aren’t the same people we knew back in high school. I have also learned that some of them haven’t changed at all from when I knew them in high school and that is a little frightening. And I am far from being the most mature person I know and I am by no means someone who thinks they understand completely how the world works by age 23, but I can say that I have come a long way and I am not who I was 15 years ago, or 5 years ago or even one year ago. I like who I am and who I’m becoming but I know I have a lot more changing to do in the future.
We also forget that celebrities, politicians, athletes, and other famous figures can change, too. And we forget that we are some of their biggest critiques in life because they are always in someone’s spotlight. They may make a comment about something, stand up for a belief, makes jokes at someone’s expense, etc. and we are the first to tear them down without a chance for them to explain themselves or learn and understand where they are coming from. Or they make an effort to learn and understand their mistake and apologize and usually aren’t reciprocated with the same change of heart from everyone else.
And now “canceled culture” is a thing and personally, I think it needs to stop. I was listening to a podcast called “I Weigh” run by Jameela Jamil and she recently had Demi Lovato as a guest. Everything Demi says about cancel culture I 100% agree with. Overall, it is a dumb way of automatically rejecting the notion that someone can learn from their mistake. Demi begs the question “where is the forgiveness culture?” She goes on to say, if you use up multiple chances to learn and change, then yes you should be “canceled”, but if you have the courage to say “‘I’ve learned from this’, then let that be an example for other people, so that they can change, too.”
We all have room to grow and learn from our mistakes and make changes in our lives whether you are a grocer just trying to get by (especially in these crazy times. You are wonderful and thank you!) or you are the most well-known person on the planet. Everyone deserves a few chances to grow and learn from their mistakes and to grow as an individual.
While we have the time right now, we could use this opportunity to better ourselves. Be more open to new people, ideas, beliefs, lifestyles, etc. We can create new routines to help us get on track to the best possible version of ourselves that we can possibly be. Besides, why tear ourselves and others down when we can work together to build each other up.